We(mom & dad) frequently discuss our child's development as well as parenting and family goals.
Parenting is one of the most important and exciting roles you
will ever play in your life. Parenting is like full-time work, and obviously, there
are goals in parenting, just as there are in any other career. It is likely
that if you set some goals for yourself to guide your way through parenthood,
you will be able to fulfill your position as a better and more responsible
parent.
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What Is Parenting Goal?
The main focus of a parenting goal is about what you want to achieve
as a parent. This keeps you on track and helps you to concentrate on the things
that require attention. Setting goals can be difficult because we may believe
we are following one goal while our actions are following another (that is
completely out of sight).
Why Are Parenting Goals So Important?
Parenting a child without any pre-determined goals is similar
to shooting blindfolded. As a parent, you should be sure about what you want to
achieve for your child as a parent. Having a parenting goal will not only help
you to move in the proper direction. It will also help you stay focused, making
the journey easier. Here are some more reasons why setting a parenting goal is
important:
* The first reason is to believe that the success of your child
depends on you (parent). Your child is highly impacted by the way you show up
every day, the acts you perform on purpose, and the challenges you face.
* The second reason is that in order to take care of your child
and help them to succeed in life, you must first take care of yourself and
understand your own positive and negative characteristics. Setting parental
goals might help you to fully understand the situation and your role in it.
This reflective process helps to focus on yourself and change your mindset, which
has a cascading effect throughout your entire family.
* Finally, any change (such as building strength or working on
negative and positive characteristics) involves some level of change for both
parents and children. Repetition and consistency are the most effective methods
for encouraging improvement. Breaking down your goals into smaller actionable
steps that you can work on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis will help you
stay focused and motivated as you work toward reaching the "parenting
goal".
What Is The Best Way To Set A Parenting Goal?
So, how does one go about setting a parenting goal? We have
high expectations of our children as parents. We want our children to be
healthy, happy, energetic, kind, responsible, well-educated, and so on.
However, some parents wish to fulfill their parenting goals while raising their
children. They want their children to be respectful, hardworking, well-behaved,
and to achieve everything we ask of them. Parents believe that this will lead
to a smooth path for their children to succeed. How can you help your child in
achieving more success? Here are four simple steps you should take for your
children:
Step 1: Make a Decision on What you want to Achieve
The first step in creating a good parenting goal is to figure
out exactly what you want to achieve as a parent. The goal could be anything, such
as helping your child improve his or her academic performance, developing more
trust with other children, improving healthy eating habits, controlling temper
tantrums, and so on. Just go ahead and set a goal once you have decided that is
beneficial for your child.
Step 2: Define, once you know It
It is time to set a goal for yourself, once you have decided
the areas where you need to improve as a parent. Defining a goal will help you better
understand and set your target, making it easier for you to achieve it. Setting
a parenting goal will also help you figure out what changes you need to make. For
example, if you want to educate your child about healthy eating habits, you
should lead by example.
Step 3: What do I know about my Child's Positive and Negative Character Traits?
Before you make an action plan, you must first define your
goal as a parent and educate yourself about what you are dealing with. You must
first understand your child's positive and negative characters in order to
identify the best approach to help them. It is also important for you to educate
yourself about the developmental changes that your child is going through at
this point. It is important to think about your child's physical and emotional
well-being and adjust your parenting goals accordingly.
Step 4: Make an Action-plan
The final and important step is to create an action plan to
help you achieve your parenting goals. If your parenting goal seems too big to
achieve, it is a good idea to break it down into smaller parts. After that,
figure out the best way to achieve those smaller goals.
What Are The Foundations Of Parenting Goals?
Parenting includes a wide range of activities. What do you
wish for the future of your child? What kind of parent do you want to be when
it comes to your children? In a year, how do you want your bonding with your
children to be? In the next three years? What about ten years from now? Personally,
I suggest that you follow the three pillars listed below to help you navigate a
peaceful, calm parenting path:
1. Put everything you have Learned into Practice
Children learn a lot by observing their parents, so it is important
that you (parents) follow through on whatever you teach them. Also, if you have
noticed, you will see that children tend to pick up bad habits more quickly and
easily than good ones. So, if you want your child to be truthful, make sure you
do not lie. It is also important that you avoid being rude or using bad
language.
2. Involve yourself more in your Child's Life
Parents used to be quite involved in their children's lives
when they were young. However, as children grow older, parents tend to become
less involved in their children's lives. This could be because the parents
think the child is capable of taking care of their own needs and requires some
space. That, however, is wrong. In fact, parents should become more involved
during this time since their children need more guidance, encouragement, and a
restraining force.
3. Be Encouraging
Supporting your child's choices, likes, and dislikes is the
most important part of parenting. It is not enough to be knowledgeable of your
child's unique talents, abilities, positive, and negative qualities. You must also
learn to value their qualities and capabilities. When your children achieve
something or do something different, appreciate them. Encourage your child to
do what they enjoy, rather than forcing them to do something that they may not enjoy.
Five Best parenting Goals For Our Child
In general, no matter what we do to shape their lives, our
children are who they are at the end of the day. Set goals to improve your
relationship with your child, because a strong healthy parent-child bond is the
best foundation for everything we want our kids to be as grownups.
As a result, not all of the parenting goals listed below will
apply to you. You may scoff at some of the goals on the list since they come
naturally to you. However, there will be some goals on here that you can relate
to and that you may want to work on. Because no parent is without flaws. So, we
all work to improve on many, if not all, of these parenting goals:
1. Support and Encourage Independence
This mindset of independence can begin at an early age and
grow through time. This is the most important step, yet it is also the most difficult
to achieve. As our children get older, they will face several obstacles and
countless decisions, most of which we parents will be absent from. If we do not
prepare our children to face the obstacles, they will find it difficult to make
decisions.
Many parents protect their children from possible risks and
provide them with a feeling of security. We (parents) are doing our best to
solve all of their problems because we want our children to be secure and
happy. So, despite our best intentions, we may be doing more harm than good. All
of this is interlinked with the concept of independence.
Why is it Important to Support and Encourage Independence?
Allowing our children age-related levels of independence and
letting them know that we believe in them makes them feel valued. It also allows
them to learn, grow, and improve their decision-making abilities. Encouraging
and improving your child's independence is an awesome parenting goal that will
help them for the rest of their lives.
2. Develop a Healthy Communication
The most important parenting goal for every parent is to
develop a healthy, open line of communication with their children. Your
children should be able to come to you on their own, regardless of how bad the
situation is, or how much they have messed up something. They must believe that
their parent's love for them is unconditional and trustworthy. And that is the
only way to develop healthy communication.
Why is it Important to have Healthy Communication?
It helps your child develop communication skills with you and
other people when you develop a healthy line of communication with your child.
It also strengthens your bond since you appreciate and value your child's
views and feelings, whatever they are.
3. Follow the Rules and Consequences Consistently
One of the most frustrating things for parents is when their
children do not listen or follow the rules. It is because the rules are not
clear as they could be, and the punishments are not as consistent as they could
be, or they are simply testing you since it is their job to test, and it is
our(parents) job to hold and follow the rules.
Try the following suggestions if you want your children to
follow the rules:
---> Decide on your family rules and discuss them with
your children so that they are prepared for what to expect
---> Make a decision about the consequences of breaking
the rules and inform your children ahead of time
---> Make an effort to follow the consequences and rules in
a consistent way.
Why is it Important to Follow Rules and Consequences Consistently?
In order to keep their lives organized as they learn and grow
through new experiences, children of all ages require regular rules and
consequences. Although the child's rules and consequences will change as he or
she grows older, consistency must be maintained. Children will be able to trust
the rules and understand the consequences of breaking them if parents
consistently enforce them.
4. Take a Break and Focus on Self-Care without Mom Guilt
We cannot take care of our family unless we are in good physical
and mental health. So, by taking care of ourselves, we can better care for our
families. With that knowledge, take a break. Because you will be the best
parent for your children when you are at your best.
If you want to focus on self-care without feeling guilty, consider
the following suggestions:
---> Take some time for yourself and do what you need to
do to maintain your mental and physical health
---> Make a to-do list for yourself and stick to it
---> When you are feeling down, prepare a "happy
playlist" for yourself and listen to it to improve your mood
5. Encourage your Children to take Responsibility for their Mistakes
The most difficult task for parenting is to teach our
children to accept responsibility for their mistakes. It is important that we
educate our children about the value of owing when they have made a mistake.
What are the Benefits of Accepting Mistakes?
In general, justifying a mistake can lead to a larger
problem, whereas owing up to a mistake can save it from getting worse. Teach
your children to accept responsibility for their mistakes so that they learn
from mistakes later. The reason for owning up to mistakes is that it helps your
children become better people in the future, and people respect those who do
so.
Final Thought
We should create goals in parenting just like we do in other
areas of our lives, such as work, health, and finances. Yes, parenthood is
extremely difficult, and it appears that as soon as we figure out one stage,
our children move on to the next, offering fresh challenges. Your love, advice,
and support will help a child in becoming the finest version of himself or
herself at all stages of growth.
So, what are your top priorities as a parent or as a family? Are
there any of the above-mentioned goals that you particularly admire?
Useful info ... Keep up the good work
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