Arguments and serious conversations are quite common in marriage life especially after the arrival of a baby. When you bring your baby home, yes. now your family becomes whole and complete. This is the moment where your role is not alone as home-maker and wife - actually this is the time all your duties and responsibilities become double like you need to focus on your career growth, partner, baby, household chores, and so on.
1. Parenting Ideas May Vary
First-time parents always have a thought to give the best to
their baby there it starts the argument. For example, if you select a disposable
diaper for the reason baby will get undisturbed sleep and eases your regular
diaper duties, but your partner selected a cloth diaper for better hygiene and
economy. This argument may look small but when it happens often it will ruin
your happy marriage life.
Solution:
Before taking any decision, it is good to have a conversation
with your partner and make a decision together which is best for your baby.
2. Postpartum Depression
It is very common that women face a lot of hormonal changes
after giving birth and also there will be a routine change in their daily life.
Generally, people will get irritated when they do not get enough sleep and
rest. Actually, newborn babies require a lot of attention like feeding,
bathing, and many other works. So, obviously baby grabs a mom's entire day and
sometimes night times too. Before having a baby she finds enough time to spend
with her partner and also she can have some time to take care of herself, but
after having a baby she could not find a time or be like as before, which makes
her angrier and fight unnecessarily with their partner.
Solution:
Actually, there is no perfect solution for postpartum
depression but one thing you can do - express your feelings with your partner
and ask him to take care of the baby. Am sure, your partner can understand your
feeling and help you to relax.
3. Divide the Task Equally
Once the baby comes home there will be a lot of work to take
care of your baby as well as household chores many gets irritated at this point
only because of their daily routine changes. They obviously feel like their
partner is not supporting them in any way.
Solution:
Do not shout or do not build any unnecessary argument with
your partner, instead ask your partner to help you with changing nappies,
getting the baby to sleep, and doing some household chores. If they do not know
any particular work teaches them politely am sure they will learn quickly to help
you and make you feel relaxed and less worried.
4. Lack of Intimacy
After childbirth, the baby grabs a mom's complete attention
she always thinks about, what to feed once the baby woke up, sterilizing the
feeding bottle, and many others. I know always thinking about a baby is quite
common but at the same time, you should think about your partner and should
spend time with him too. Your partner feels like, he is left alone and this leads
to unnecessary arguments and a lot of problems in the relationship.
Solution:
Whenever your baby is sleeping try to spend time with your
partner. Recollect all your old memories like before having a baby how you used
to spend time and share your feeling which you are experiencing at present.
This healthy conversation leads to relieving all your stress and depression.
And finally...
5. Financial Planning
After having a baby, monthly expenses will be increased and
different. Each month baby's needs will keep on increasing because the baby is
growing. So, obviously, in budget planning, there will be some heavy argument.
Solution:
In budget planning, there are many ways to reduce unnecessary
expenses. But one thing you should keep in your mind when baby grows their
necessary things will keep on adding to your every month list, if it is a
necessary thing for your baby's growth and development do not hesitate to
spend. On the whole, plan your budget, avoid unnecessary expenses, and spend
wisely according to your baby's needs and family.
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ReplyDeleteUma Madhavi